Do parents know how to relax? Our allergy all Star Amiee talks about the importance of looking after yourself, so you can look after your little one. When baby is poorly, has allergies, assisted needs, disabilities etc your always on edge. Amiee shares why it’s important for us to learn how to relax!
Learning to relax
Research into food allergies shows that this can have a huge impact of parents well being and can cause anxiety and mental health issues. This was the case for me. After my daughter was found to have allergies, I think I lived on adrenaline for most of the time. Constantly in fear mode and feeling on edge. I was in ‘flight or fight’ mode, and this began to manifest in physical and mental symptoms.
All the stress culminating in a series of panic attacks that led me to seek help. Cognitive behavioural therapy really helped me relax, but also I wanted to implement changes to my lifestyle. Changes that would make me feel calm and relaxed, so that I can be positive for myself and my daughter. I didn’t want her to pick up on my anxieties around her eating. I have recently embraced finding ways to relax and have some me time. Surprisingly, I am seeing lots of positive effects in my mindset and general. Our well-being as parents is so important and making some time to nourish this is vital. So, I wanted to share some of the ways I am learning to relax with you.
Meditation, meditation, meditation
Meditation is a real buzzword right now, and for the right reasons. Lots of research has been done proving the regular practice of meditation can have positive effects on our mindset and wellbeing. I started with a book called ‘The Art of Breathing’ and downloaded the Headspace app. Just a few minutes a day really helps to calm my mind. At first it was so hard to try and switch off.
The Headspace app talks you through each step, and allows thoughts to come and go. Initially, I was meditating first thing in the morning but now I do it whenever I can. When stuck in traffic I focus, or if I find a nice spot during a walk. I will allow a few minutes to breathe and relax. I am aiming to build this up but am not putting too much pressure on myself, just ensuring that it can fit in well with my lifestyle.
I have found a yoga class that I love! It’s once a week on a Wednesday evening and is very gentle with breathwork and relaxation at the end. I think that is my favourite part; lying with a blanket listening to some calming music! I always feel so much better afterwards and always sleep really well. I have recently began to get up at 5:45am before the kids awake to practice a 10 minute morning yoga! This means some nights I am asleep by 9pm as I can’t keep eyes open!
This year some friends and I set up a Book Club. An informal meeting every month (usually involving food and a glass of wine) where we share our views on our book of the month. This has been great for so many reasons but mainly because reading is so meditative. I have read so many books this year and now read before bed rather than watching TV. It is a great form of escapism and have read some inspirational stories such as Edith Eger’s ‘The Choice’
This has been quite new to me and was suggested by a friend who is a midwife who had been amazed at the positive effects of Essential Oils for labouring women. I bought the diffuser and am collecting a range of oils. My particular favourites are Frankincense and Lavender. I love the scent and find them really relaxing. Plus, they make your house smell like a Spa!It is said that the scent you like the best is the one that you need the most. I loved Frankincense instantly and then when I read up on it it’s a very comforting oil which is what I needed.
This is a new one for me. I decided to give something new a try and step out of my comfort zone. My acupuncturist is lovely and really put me at ease. The first time, It did feel strange having the needles but didn’t hurt apart from my wrist! I feel a lot calmer as a result of this and really look forward to a session once every 6 weeks to relax and recharge.
If you would like to chat to Aimee about her experiences, you can follow her on Instagram.
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